Monday, June 21, 2010

How to Use the Power of Words to Your Benefit

How to Use the Power of Words to Your Benefit
By Colin Dunbar

Someone I know maintains that "motivational words are great coming from philosophers, but that's because they're not in the real world." The power of words can be an incredible aid to helping us remain motivated and focused.

Abraham Lincoln certainly was in the "real world". So was Henry Ford. Napoleon Hill, Anthony Robbins, John Kehoe, and so the list goes on.

For most of us, the words we read have little impact on us and our lives, and especially on the setting of our goals. Here I hope to offer another way to look at words, and hopefully give the value of what words can mean with our goals and our lives.

The enormous amount of motivational material available - books, articles, motivational quotes - can (and does) help us to develop a positive attitude. But this does not occur by reading them as a novel or short story, that is, reading it once, and then never returning to the material.

When we use the concept known as spaced repetition, which is the reading of material repeatedly, but with breaks in between, words, and in particular motivational words become a powerful aid. This has an exceptional effect on our subconscious mind (and also works well with learning new material).

How much effort is there in that?

To use an example, consider the following motivational quote: "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it." Let's consider how these words can help us to develop a positive attitude, and as result make us more content.

"If you don't like something, change it."

Example, are you in a job that absolutely drains you mentally, and emotionally? Have you seriously looked at changing jobs? And here the key word is "seriously". Do we really investigate all our options? Do we consider dropping in salary (in the short term), but have work that stimulates us? Do we make a concerted effort to look for other positions?

Now for the second part. "If you can't change it, change the way you think about it."

Do we have any control over the petrol price? Do we have any control over getting a flat tyre? There is no way in the world we can change these occurrences by moaning about them.

Too often we throw up our hands in frustration, or drop our head in desperation. And what is the value of that? Does it rectify the problem? Absolutely not! So why do we allow outside influences to affect us detrimentally? Accept that which you have no control over, and your attitude will soar proportionately.

In practice, using spaced repetition, committing these words to memory, when the occasion arises, we almost automatically retrieve these words and the whole situation looks entirely different.

This is where the value of words comes into its own. A while ago, while pulling away from a traffic light, I was too slow for the driver behind me. He hooted and showed me to move. My first reaction was to become annoyed, and I was "talking" to him - in no uncertain terms. Then I asked myself what effect does that have on the situation? And realizing this I relaxed I continued on my journey. By the time I reached my destination, I had all but forgotten the incident.

Words can be of real value to us, if we use them correctly. Give it a try, and see the effect it has on your attitude, and on you as a person.

As Rudyard Kipling said: "Words are the most powerful drug used by mankind."

Make it your goal to...

Find a motivational quote and write this down. Give it a read at least twice a day - you'll be surprised at the results.

About the Author

Colin Dunbar's eaziGOAL is a collection of ultimate goal setting tools created especially for working moms and dads. "There is no reason we working moms and dads cannot reach our dream." Full details available at http://www.eaziGOAL.com FREE newsletter.

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The Power Of Words

The Power Of Words
By Mel Avila Alarilla.

Words can hurt. Words can build up or destroy. So let us be careful with what we say and how we say it. Words are cheap. There are words that cut deeply into one's soul and no amount of apologies can rectify the hurt that was done. We may feel good when we give someone a piece of our mind, but what about that someone? We may have left him devastated.

Disapproving words and words that belittle a little child can become a self fulfilling prophecy when he grows up. We may be disappointed with our children and we rebuke them with hurting words that cut deeply into their souls and shatter their self confidence. We can be sure that those words will hung in their necks and manifest in their lives when they grow up and mature.

Sometimes, words can provoke anger and violence. It is better to hold back our tongues when there is nothing good that we can say. As they say, silent waters run deep and a bubbling brook holds no depth. Gossips, idle talks and back stabbing are some of the worse words that can ever leave one's mouth. They do no good and destroy the reputation of others. Better to keep our peace and hold our tongues in check.

If we must speak, let us speak words of encouragements, words of inspiration, words of love and words that uplift rather than deflate others. Let us become harbingers of peace and joy to the world. Together with a winsome smile, gentle words of approbation uplifts the spirits of those we come in contact with. Let us bring joy, love, peace and harmony into the world by our gentle and soothing words.

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The Power Of Words

By Mel Avila Alarilla.

Words can hurt. Words can build up or destroy. So let us be careful with what we say and how we say it. Words are cheap. There are words that cut deeply into one's soul and no amount of apologies can rectify the hurt that was done. We may feel good when we give someone a piece of our mind, but what about that someone? We may have left him devastated.

Disapproving words and words that belittle a little child can become a self fulfilling prophecy when he grows up. We may be disappointed with our children and we rebuke them with hurting words that cut deeply into their souls and shatter their self confidence. We can be sure that those words will hung in their necks and manifest in their lives when they grow up and mature.

Sometimes, words can provoke anger and violence. It is better to hold back our tongues when there is nothing good that we can say. As they say, silent waters run deep and a bubbling brook holds no depth. Gossips, idle talks and back stabbing are some of the worse words that can ever leave one's mouth. They do no good and destroy the reputation of others. Better to keep our peace and hold our tongues in check.

If we must speak, let us speak words of encouragements, words of inspiration, words of love and words that uplift rather than deflate others. Let us become harbingers of peace and joy to the world. Together with a winsome smile, gentle words of approbation uplifts the spirits of those we come in contact with. Let us bring joy, love, peace and harmony into the world by our gentle and soothing words.

Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Power-Of-Words&id=1105251] The Power Of Words